Walking the Walk: How people change
"How do we change?" I wondered. Many of us have idealized versions of ourselves and our lives, but how do we really begin to live those versions and make them real?
"I believe in change, for the other option has no magic at all." - Cleo Wade
Looking at my own life, I can see clearly that every change began with an intention. A strong desire to be [more confident] [kinder] [happier] etc.
Intentions are SO POWERFUL - setting an intention seems to tap into some universal force that opens up opportunities and doorways for our desires to become reality. But these “doorways” created by our intentions need to be walked through if we want to change. And they’ll keep showing up until we do!
In my experience, personal change doesn't come from some big event, but from many *in-the-moment* decisions to do things differently than we’ve done them before. By doing so we are literally *jumping timelines* - and by this, I mean stepping through a doorway to another life than the one we would have had if we’d continued to make the same choices again and again and again.
It’s the little moments of choosing to say yes instead of no next time you get invited somewhere (or vice versa)! Or speaking words of love and understanding instead of lashing out when you feel hurt. It might look like choosing to meditate or attend a yoga class instead of watching Netflix. Or telling yourself that it’s all going to be ok instead of constantly replaying what went wrong in your mind.
These little moment-to-moment decisions where we choose to align with the new version of ourselves are what really make change real! Before we know it, we are the more confident and kind adventurer we always wanted to be. Living the life we only dreamed of before.
"You aren’t obligated to be the person you were yesterday. You can actively choose who you are at any moment. Choose to live in love and joy, and find your bliss. You are worthy of happiness always!" - Allie Michelle
Ask yourself: Who is the true me? A good way to envision this is to ask: “What would I do and how would I behave if I wasn’t afraid?” - journal the answer, noticing the qualities and attitudes of this version of you — and see if you can bring the qualities, attitudes, and emotions of this version into your here and now.
“If not now, when?” - Rabbi Hillel
Remember: now is the ONLY place change can occur. So take about 20 seconds to really feel this version of yourself within your own body and mind right now.
Wherever you can, use this *true* version of yourself as a guiding force when it comes to decision making. And before you know it, you’ll be living it! Just like that.
"Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and follow where they lead." - Louisa May Alcott
The journey into ourselves is never-ending, and there will always be more things to be, do, and have. That’s why practices such as self-love, taking time to appreciate + enjoy where you are, and honouring your progress are all so important! Anytime we decide to bring more joy and appreciation into our present moment, we can be sure that we’re setting ourselves up for a beautiful life, no matter what the change or outcome 🤗
May you be the you you've always desired to be! May you live the life you've imagined.
I believe in you.